The skill: Let's swap or trade
Instead of a refusal and a shutting down of the conversation, replying with a possible alternative option goes a long way to increasing collaboration.
Swapping or trading is a skill that offers a replacement action that is better suited to you, yet still has some value for your child.
This skill is used over all ages as it is so easy to adapt to simple and complex situations.
It helps to be able to think quickly on your feet to see if you can find an alternative that would suit you, but also be an empowering option for you child.