The skill: Give me three good reasons - convince me
This lecture shares the insights and skills in how to ask the right question, and then sit back while your child puts in extra effort to find a solution that will work for you.
Get your child to share 3 good reasons with you as to why they should be allowed to do that they are wanting to do.
And an even more powerful statement is to ask them to convince you.
This implies you are open to the possibility of it working, but your child needs to put in the effort upfront.