Your child pushing your boundaries? Say what you mean and mean what you say.
Your child will only take your boundary as seriously as you will!
So if you are not getting your boundaries met... then you are not taking them seriously enough yourself.
"OUCH!" you might say.
This does not mean that your intention is not to take them seriously, or that your boundary isn't serious.... it just means that you have not done enough to put them in place and get them met.
Many modern day parents are too afraid to put boundaries in place. They don't want to be seen as 'unfair' and 'the mean parent'.
And at the same time, they feel guilty if they don't do EVERYTHING possible for their children. So parents frequently put their child's needs ahead of their own, resulting in them feeling exhausted, unappreciated and resentful.
But this lecture shows you how to be spontaneous and
flexible in your boundaries without getting your chidlren the idea that
they can just keep pushing your boundaries till you give in.