Introduction to Choices
A quick introduction to the skill on Boundaries and choices.
Getting cooperation is about power dynamics. You are telling your children to do something that they probably don't want to do. And because you have AUTHORITY over them, they can resent you for that power you have, and so resist you even more.
Understand what creates the power dynamic and you will find the secret to unlocking it.
- know the difference between being authoritarian, and being the authority. Authoritarian is more the commanding boss. Being the authority can still be empowering and respectful.
- see the difference between obedience, and cooperation. Obedience is: "don't ask questions, just do as I say" and cooperation is more of a willingness to join together to do something.